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Depression and Anxiety

BB, my heart is completely and absolutely broken for you, your son, DIL and your whole entire family.  No parent (or grandparent) should have to go through burying a child.  You are all in my thoughts and prayers during this time and I wish for peace (at some point) for all of you.  Please tell your son and DIL to just be there for each other and gentle gentle hugs to them.
 
BB... words don't express enough... so so sorry for the loss of your granddaughter.  Deepest sympathies to your family.
 
Really sorry to hear that BB, don't know what to say really, other than im sorry, and that I hope that you and your family will find a way to get through it all as best as you can.
 
Oh Dan, I am so sorry to hear this.  The good Lord works in mysterious ways.  I don't ever understand the death of such innocent little ones, but I trust that God has a purpose for her.

My deepest sympathies Dan.  Words just can't do justice to how you're feeling right now.
 
Well folks, it is 1:40 am here in Moncton and I just got back from the airport to pick up my youngest daughter who is in college at Redding, California.

Thanks for all the notes and comments.  This community is awesome...even the Sens fans.  ;)

Tomorrow is going to be tough as I need to sit with my son and organize the funeral. 

I am beginning to realize the anguish associated with a parent having to bury their child.  In this case not only am I involved as a grandparent but my dad, who is in his early seventies and active leading an outreach to the city's poor and marginalized, will most likely be presiding over the service as a great-grandfather which under most circumstances (graduation, marriage,etc) would be a special circumstance.

Thanks again for the friendship in a tough time in my life.

Dan
 
Terrible news, BB.  Condolences to you and your family.  Words probably can never describe the pain of losing a loved one, especially a sweet child.  Be strong, and may the Lord be with you and your family in this time of mourning.

I'm sure that wherever she is up there heavens, she will watch over her grandpa and her dearest family.  Believe me, angels do watch over us.
 
My deepest condolences. Being a father of 2 and soon to be 3 children, I can't even imagine the pain and anguish your entire family must be going through. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
 
I don't think I've ever gotten into any kind of discussion on this board with you before BB but wow.

My deepest sympathies to what you're going through right now. That has to be like a nightmare that you can't wake up from. The ironic part is, sleep is probably the only escape.

I've seen a lot of people die that I've known but I can't imagine what it's like to see someone that young and innocent go that meant that much to you.

That's a different kind of rip into a soul.

God Bless you, your family and especially her twin.

Take care of yourself and I'm very sorry.
 
My deepest condolences BB, I know what it feels like to lose a loved one.  Over a year ago my mother died and it was very hard for me.  I was only 20 at the time and she was in relatively good health.

No one knew what to say to me and all I can say is that it gets better with time, very gradually but it does. 
 
Changing topics a little, and not wanting to take anything away from BB's terrible news...

I have mixed news. Actually GOOD news, I guess, although I'm struggling to see it that way. I've been granted CPP-Disability. Very seldom does one get it for mental health, especially without a lengthy appeal first. My mixed feelings are that my family doc and psychiatrist suggest I may never be healthy enough to work again... Kinda gives me a feeling of being pretty damn useless as a human being, husband & parent. I'm in a really big anxiety state over this now...

In case anyone doesn't know - I've spent over 60 days since May in hospital at various times for severe depression, panic attacks, Agoraphobia and suicidal tendancies.

Should be a decent retro cheque coming from CPP, although I'll likely have to pay back much of it for the time I was on EIB sick benefits.
 
And again BB, your family are in my thoughts still as you deal with the loss of your beautiful little baby granddaughter.

Rick, congrats and I mean that respectfully.  You sir, have been through hell and back and you deserve to have received this to help yourself and your family.  Just remember, that you are not a useless human being, husband or parent.  Your family loves you and they would be at a total loss without you.  Just because you may not work again (who knows what the future holds), you are still a husband and a father and those are THE MOST important jobs in the world.

I hope that this news as lifted some weight off of your shoulders and I just wanted to send you some hugs.
 
Rick said:
My mixed feelings are that my family doc and psychiatrist suggest I may never be healthy enough to work again...
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I'm not really qualified to speak against your doctors, but I find that a ridiculous statement. Don't take this the wrong way, but your physical health is really not good. Obviously, you know that by way of your excellent blog (150reasons.com -- go read it everybody!) So until your physical health is improved, you one convince me one bit that your mental health is uncurable.

They go hand-in-hand!

You may have to always take medication and you may not be able to have a full-time job, but I can almost guarantee that your mental health will improve with your physical health. Everybody I know (not many, admittedly) that has made major changes to their nutrition and exercise has admitted to feeling happier and more fulfilled.

It's clear that your wife supports you and your children love you; there's a reason for that.

Keep up the good work!
 
I wanted to share something too, with everybody. Read the book "When the Body Says No." It's completely changes my outlook and disease and mental health. I'm convinced that 90% of disease is a result of stresses in our lives. It's made me honestly reevaluate my childhood and has shown how negative experiences have shaped how I am. This has allowed me to start considering how I'm going to become a healthier person.

I can't recommend the book highly enough.
 
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