Nik the Trik said:Significantly Insignificant said:and it got me thinking, and it got me trying to remember every interaction that I have had with a female. I'm sure I have told an off-color joke, or invalidated a women in some way with something that I have said at some point through my life trying to be funny, but failing miserably. I mean probably not through my adult years, but more than likely when I was a teenager.
I think the last few weeks have probably inspired a lot of similar introspection. Which is a good thing. Reflection and a genuine desire to be better in our future behaviours should be a continuous process for all of us.
But let's also acknowledge we're talking about a super-low bar to clear here(mainly it just involves not showing your genitals to anyone who doesn't want to see them). None of these scandals are about women objecting to being politely and respectfully asked out or an occasional off-colour comment.
True. I guess I think of all the guy "locker room talk" and the comments that get made in there, and everyone is okay with it. It seems that some of these comments speak to the core individual that they are. I also think of some of the stories that I heard about some of the football players that I went to highschool with. I remember this one class that I had, where the guy behind me in my business class told everybody that the girl behind him let an entire hockey team sleep with her. This happened in the middle of a class. He said it to a teacher, out loud. The teachers response was "Oh c'mon, that's gross", and no one else said anything. I was a part of that group. I said nothing. They're just words, but think about the impact that must have had on her life at that time? I also think of the rumours that circulated about this other girl that went to my highschool, and the nicknames that they called her as she walked through the halls. Again, I said nothing. There is a lot of rage associated with everything that is going on right now, and I look at my own actions, and I feel like I should have done more in my own life. In retrospect, this seems like something that shouldn't have had to have been "learned".
Although, I guess I should also focus on some of the positives as well. I remember going to a restaurant where the women are provocatively dressed. Some of the guys at are table made some comments, not directly to the women, but sort whispering among themselves. One of the older gentlemen at the table put a stop to it by basically saying "Easy guys, you will want to be gentlemen from now on, and not schoolboys forever." The statement worked, but maybe it seems a touch light in hindsight.
We'll attempt to move forward with these social issues, but it just feels like we never get anywhere. I look at the race situation in the states, and I am not sure that I hold out much more hope for gender relations, but we'll see.